The Art of Apologizing

At a Glance:

Grades:	4, 5, 6
Subject:	SEL (Social-Emotional Learning)
Topic:	Building Strong Relationships
Lesson Length:	15 - 20 mins

Standards / Framework:

Through this sample comic, students will learn to use compassionate words when apologizing.

Students should have some understanding of what a good apology looks like.

Discuss the best ways to apologize. Is just saying “I’m sorry” a good apology? Why or why not? Remind students that an apology should be reflective and detailed about their regret.
Review the components of a proper apology:
- Reflect on what happened.
- Accept ownership for your mistake(s).
- Rephrase what you meant to say now that you have regret.
- Ask the person you hurt how to make it better.
- Understand that the victim may still be frustrated.

Read the sample comic as a class or independently.
In small groups, have students discuss how they would apologize for each of the comic scenarios using the five steps of apologizing mentioned above. Model an example if necessary:
- “I’m sorry I took the book you were reading and accidentally tore its cover. I wanted your attention and you weren’t giving it to me as fast as I think I should have gotten it. I overreacted. I should have let you come to me when you were ready and not distracted you from reading. Can I do anything to make this better? It’s OK if you’re still upset with me.”

Have students share their sample comic apologies with the whole group.
Reflect on how students may use different words or emotions to say a similar type of apology.